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Don’t close yourself off from the possibility of finding love on Tinder

But is it even possible?

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“Can you find love on Tinder?”

Ah, the question that everyone who hasn’t tried the app curiously asks. I opened my Tinder app and recalled the first time I ever used it.

Initially, I was skeptical about online dating. I thought Tinder, like other dating apps, was for people who only want to indulge in flings and uncommitted fun. I couldn’t wrap my head around the idea of being able to find love through an app. I hate to admit it: I’ve judged people on the network and I despised Tinder despite not having used the app at all. I still believed love unfolds a certain way: by chance encounters, intimate conversations, two people falling in love with one another. I had a narrow perspective on modern romance in my generation.

Friends and people I know who’ve used and found love on the app shared stories on how it all started for them. I realized that the hesitation to try the app was my fear of change — I hated how my views were being challenged by technology! But, curiosity kicked in after hearing my friends’ perspectives and I hit “download app.”

Having been on the app for a year now, I noticed that everyone asks why you’re on Tinder. That’s when you’ll realize that people have different reasons: some want to kill time, cure their boredom, feel good about themselves, be distracted from loneliness, have a good time and mess around… But, amid the sea of people, there’s a small portion of “Tinderfellas” and “Tinderellas” who are looking for something serious, who want to be in a relationship, who use the app the way it should be — for dating. 

I remember matching with someone interesting. It was one of those days when I lazily swiped to pass time. This guy is foreign, totally cute, and adventurous. Above all, he’s a simple guy who found joy in simple things (as seen in his profile, of course). When we first matched, I knew I had to start the conversation and that’s where it all began. He found me adorable and the whole interaction was so much fun that we left the app to talk somewhere else. We continuously kept in contact and despite both being busy, we tried our best to meet and go on a date.

For the first time in a long while, I was treated with respect and I felt loved. I hadn’t experienced that magic for some time so I freaked out. It’s scary to put your heart on your sleeves. By doing so, I let my fears get the best of me and ran away. When I realized my mistake, I tried to reach out but I knew I already screwed up. I wasted the chance to be with someone amazing and deprived myself of the happiness that I could’ve had.

At some point, I also realized I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship. It wasn’t the right time, yet. I took it as a lesson so when the next person comes, I’ll be sure of what I want.

I know a lot of people who found real relationships on Tinder — some just started, some are going strong, some already ended their love stories. There are those who’ve decided to leave the app, and some still choose to go back to the same cycle of swiping left or right until they find the right one.

Does it mean you can find love on Tinder? Apparently, it doesn’t work that way. You don’t get to find love with just a right swipe, or because you matched with someone. After all, you’re not supposed to look for love, you let it find you — at the right moment, at the right time and place, with the right people, and on your own terms.

Based on my experience, Tinder doesn’t guarantee that you’ll find love, but it can help.

Most of us are still defining ourselves and trying to navigate adulthood. Some of us are busy pursuing passions and greater pursuits in life. There are people hustling and trying to make ends meet. Tinder makes it easier for us to find someone we can really connect with, so we can still put ourselves out there despite the differences in priorities.

If you happen to meet someone from Tinder with potential for a long-term relationship, it’s all up to you. Condition your mind and prepare yourself. Decide if you want to pursue a relationship with that person.

Tinder is just a tool that can help you be open to love and dating again. Love is everywhere. It happens when you least expect it. Maybe the love of your life was already that match you weren’t talking to, maybe it’s someone you were about to swipe right to, or maybe you won’t meet them in an app, but in a bar, or a friend’s event, or when traveling to places you’ve always wanted to see. You have to realize that love is natural. It’s a force that cannot be forced. You let it develop over time. 

You still need to put yourself out there, though. Don’t close yourself off from the possibility of love finding you. Whether it be on a dating app or otherwise, trust that it will find you. Believe in the universe, or fate, because it sometimes works in tandem with our technology. Be patient and focus on being the best version of yourself for now so when you match with someone again, you’ll be ready. Stop looking for love, and be open when it comes.

With right swipes come great possibilities.


Love in the 21st century is a series of essays and anecdotes tackling modern love, relationships, and dating in the age where technology is at the forefront, playing a key role in connecting two hearts, even from a distance.

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The sex toy every sophisticated woman should own

Womanizer Premium 2 is such a luxurious stimulator!

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The following is intended for readers 18+

If you’ve been in the sex toy world for a while, you’ve probably heard about the revolutionary Womanizer.

This face massager-looking device is now considered a cult fave, and lots of women are raving about it. Others are even claiming it made them reach the big-O in just two minutes. Intriguing, right?

So what exactly is the hype about?

Womanizer is the first-ever toy to introduce the Pleasure Air ™ technology. Unlike normal vibrators, the Womanizer aims to give pleasure without having direct contact with the skin. In this case, the clitoris.

The Womanizer uses air pressure to “massage” the clit, so it’s gentle yet very effective. This technology is wildly popular that there are lots of knockoffs in the market, which is why it is patented.

If you scroll through Womanizer’s catalogue, there are plenty of options depending on your budget. I was both excited and intrigued when looking at the choices. There’s just a lot to consider.

When I finally got to try the Womanizer Premium 2, their newest luxury clit stimulator, all I can say is this: I am now a believer. This beauty is worth the internet’s hysterical worship!

C marks the spot

Here’s a hot take for men: the reason why your girl is probably not enjoying it, is you go straight to penetration without taking much time in the clit. I can’t stress this enough: the C-Spot is just as important as the G-Spot.

Stimulating the clitoris alone can lead to multiple orgasms without the need for penetration. And the Womanizer Premium 2 proved this for me numerous times — sometimes even in just one sesh!

It’s like oral sex, but better

Thanks to Womanizer Premium’s 12 intensity levels, I have the option to go slow and gentle, and then switch to powerful and intense mode. The control buttons are easy to navigate, I can feel all the sensations without having to move much.

The product also features an AutoPilot ™ mode where I just sit back and enjoy the different stimulations and intensity levels. Yes, you can let this thing take the lead! I use this feature whenever I’m feeling adventurous, or when I’m extra lazy to control the buttons.

Safe, healthy, and without hassle

The Womanizer Premium 2, like any product in the Womanizer catalogue, is made of hypoallergenic silicone. It feels smooth and velvety, and the quality is true to its name.

I appreciate that the design is subtle yet straightforward. It is not intimidating at first glance; unlike some sex toys I’ve seen in the past.

The no-touch orgasm is a life-changing innovation, the product doesn’t rub on the skin to achieve pleasure. Suffice to say that it promotes safe and healthy stimulation without being harsh down there.

It is waterproof, so cleaning is not a hassle. You can even use it in the shower.

The package also comes with an extra stimulation head on a different size, to which I learned that the medium one is a better fit for me.

Making me-time much sexier 

I strongly believe that self-pleasure is a form of self-love. Gifting yourself the Womanizer is actually like treating yourself to a luxurious spa at a 5-star hotel. Pair it with your favorite bed sheet and room scent for a full cozy experience.

If you don’t live alone, the Smart Silence technology is your best friend. Although it’s not silent enough for super quiet spaces. Better turn on your aircon or e-fan while doing the deed to ensure subtle background noise.

Aside from the various intensity levels, you can also explore different positions using the Womanizer. Tip: there are a lot of ideas on the Womanizer Instagram page!

For those with partners, this thing can also spice things up in the bedroom. Just let your partner control the buttons and you’re all set.

Is this your PlayMatch?

I guess the biggest downside of the Womanizer Premium 2, at least for me, is the price. There are other cheaper alternatives in the market, although I can say it’s worth the investment. If I only have the luxury to gift this to all my girl friends, I would. It’s an experience that deserves to be shared.

If you’re planning on investing in your sexual wellness, Womanizer Premium 2 should be on top of your list. It is currently on Valentine’s Day sale, from US$ 199.00 to US$ 189.05.

There are plenty of options on the Womanizer website, in case you’re still expanding your options.  You can also check out the We-Vibe Melt, a cheaper alternative that is quite similar in terms of target pleasure.

Shop the Womanizer Premium 2 on Womanizer’s website or through local shop Lauvette.

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Tinder is getting a Blind Date feature

Find a date before Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. If you don’t have a date yet, you can still turn to dating apps to find a special someone before Monday’s festivities. Right on time, Tinder introduced a new Blind Date feature to complement its growing slate of capabilities for would-be daters.

In today’s digital world, it’s almost impossible to go on a truly blind date. After a quick Google, you’ll know practically everything about a new date even before you meet them. However, dating apps are doing their best to maintain a sense of anonymity before new matches voluntarily share that information themselves. Traditionally, profiles only share someone’s first name, age, a short bio, and a few photos.

Tinder wants to change this even further with the new Blind Date feature. Instead of the usual swiping way to match up, users who opt into the feature will be paired with others based on common interests.

However, automatic matches won’t see each other’s photos yet. Instead, they’ll play short games and answer quirky prompts like “I put ketchup on _____.” If both parties like the other’s answers, they’ll get matched and finally see each other’s photos. If not, the feature will try again with another pairing.

The new feature is under Tinder’s Explore tab. Users in the United States already have the feature available. Meanwhile, global users will get Blind Dates “in the coming weeks.”

SEE ALSO: Facebook Dating now has audio calls for daters

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Toblerone’s Valentine’s Day packs lets you send personalized video greetings

The power of QR codes!

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Forget flowers and cute stuffed animals for Valentine’s Day, Toblerone has just unveiled its sweetest gift for the revered fete.

The Limited Edition Toblerone Valentine’s Day Pack might be the most thoughtful gift you can give this love month. Or your most romantic gesture yet.

Drawing inspiration from failed gift-giving situations, Toblerone showcased the limited edition pack along with a film that encapsulates funny reactions from receiving a gift that fell short.

 

To make it more special, the Toblerone Valentine’s Day packs come with a blank pack feature for you to write your personalized greeting.

Underneath, you can find a QR code function for you to record a video message. Just tear the right side of the blank pack panel, scan the QR code that’ll lead you to Toblerone Chatbot, then upload your video message.

Don’t forget to write the unique code on the blank pack before gifting your Toblerone Valentine’s Day Pack to your loved one. Upon receiving, they can scan the same QR code and preview your personalized video message.

The Limited Edition Toblerone Valentine’s Day packs are available in the nearest leading supermarket and convenience
stores. Prices are as follow: 100g (Php 109), 200g (Php 218), and 360g (Php 393).

To know more, like Toblerone on Facebook and follow @toblerone_ph on Twitter and Instagram.

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