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Don’t close yourself off from the possibility of finding love on Tinder

But is it even possible?

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“Can you find love on Tinder?”

Ah, the question that everyone who hasn’t tried the app curiously asks. I opened my Tinder app and recalled the first time I ever used it.

Initially, I was skeptical about online dating. I thought Tinder, like other dating apps, was for people who only want to indulge in flings and uncommitted fun. I couldn’t wrap my head around the idea of being able to find love through an app. I hate to admit it: I’ve judged people on the network and I despised Tinder despite not having used the app at all. I still believed love unfolds a certain way: by chance encounters, intimate conversations, two people falling in love with one another. I had a narrow perspective on modern romance in my generation.

Friends and people I know who’ve used and found love on the app shared stories on how it all started for them. I realized that the hesitation to try the app was my fear of change — I hated how my views were being challenged by technology! But, curiosity kicked in after hearing my friends’ perspectives and I hit “download app.”

Having been on the app for a year now, I noticed that everyone asks why you’re on Tinder. That’s when you’ll realize that people have different reasons: some want to kill time, cure their boredom, feel good about themselves, be distracted from loneliness, have a good time and mess around… But, amid the sea of people, there’s a small portion of “Tinderfellas” and “Tinderellas” who are looking for something serious, who want to be in a relationship, who use the app the way it should be — for dating. 

I remember matching with someone interesting. It was one of those days when I lazily swiped to pass time. This guy is foreign, totally cute, and adventurous. Above all, he’s a simple guy who found joy in simple things (as seen in his profile, of course). When we first matched, I knew I had to start the conversation and that’s where it all began. He found me adorable and the whole interaction was so much fun that we left the app to talk somewhere else. We continuously kept in contact and despite both being busy, we tried our best to meet and go on a date.

For the first time in a long while, I was treated with respect and I felt loved. I hadn’t experienced that magic for some time so I freaked out. It’s scary to put your heart on your sleeves. By doing so, I let my fears get the best of me and ran away. When I realized my mistake, I tried to reach out but I knew I already screwed up. I wasted the chance to be with someone amazing and deprived myself of the happiness that I could’ve had.

At some point, I also realized I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship. It wasn’t the right time, yet. I took it as a lesson so when the next person comes, I’ll be sure of what I want.

I know a lot of people who found real relationships on Tinder — some just started, some are going strong, some already ended their love stories. There are those who’ve decided to leave the app, and some still choose to go back to the same cycle of swiping left or right until they find the right one.

Does it mean you can find love on Tinder? Apparently, it doesn’t work that way. You don’t get to find love with just a right swipe, or because you matched with someone. After all, you’re not supposed to look for love, you let it find you — at the right moment, at the right time and place, with the right people, and on your own terms.

Based on my experience, Tinder doesn’t guarantee that you’ll find love, but it can help.

Most of us are still defining ourselves and trying to navigate adulthood. Some of us are busy pursuing passions and greater pursuits in life. There are people hustling and trying to make ends meet. Tinder makes it easier for us to find someone we can really connect with, so we can still put ourselves out there despite the differences in priorities.

If you happen to meet someone from Tinder with potential for a long-term relationship, it’s all up to you. Condition your mind and prepare yourself. Decide if you want to pursue a relationship with that person.

Tinder is just a tool that can help you be open to love and dating again. Love is everywhere. It happens when you least expect it. Maybe the love of your life was already that match you weren’t talking to, maybe it’s someone you were about to swipe right to, or maybe you won’t meet them in an app, but in a bar, or a friend’s event, or when traveling to places you’ve always wanted to see. You have to realize that love is natural. It’s a force that cannot be forced. You let it develop over time. 

You still need to put yourself out there, though. Don’t close yourself off from the possibility of love finding you. Whether it be on a dating app or otherwise, trust that it will find you. Believe in the universe, or fate, because it sometimes works in tandem with our technology. Be patient and focus on being the best version of yourself for now so when you match with someone again, you’ll be ready. Stop looking for love, and be open when it comes.

With right swipes come great possibilities.


Love in the 21st century is a series of essays and anecdotes tackling modern love, relationships, and dating in the age where technology is at the forefront, playing a key role in connecting two hearts, even from a distance.

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iPhone users have a higher match rate compared to Android owners

iPhones boost match rate by 76%

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Looking to improve your chances of getting a match on dating apps? You might want to consider using an iPhone. A new study by a UK-based firm found that iPhone users have a higher match rate compared to Android owners.

The latest study by CompareMyMobile dives into the relation of devices owned with chances of matching with someone. It found out that having an iPhone boost chances of matching with the “one” by almost 76%. There’s no specific iPhone model named in the study, but having the latest model surely boosts a person’s match rate.

It didn’t stop there, either. If you love your AirPods and Apple Watch dearly, you are sure to attract more people looking for the love of their life. The study guarantees 61% more chances of successful matches if one owns an Apple Watch. Meanwhile, having the latest AirPods alone boosts profile matches by 41%.

This is in stark contrast with the owners of Android smartphones. Having a Google Pixel will erode chances of matching with other profiles by 10%. Other brands have it worse: owners of Sony will have a 14% lesser successful match rate, while Huawei and OnePlus will have 23% and 30%, respectively.

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And what if you still rock a Blackberry? Sorry, but you can expect more people swiping to the left. The study found that having a BlackBerry significantly decreases your chances of matching with others by a staggering 74%. So if you’re still wondering why you’re still single despite having good looks and charisma, then your BlackBerry might be to blame.

Age and location affect match rate too

There are two factors that affect these preferences: age and location. Unsurprisingly, younger people are much influenced by smartphone brands in their matching preferences.

Women are much more discerning with smartphones a person uses across all age brackets. For example, smartphones influence the preferences of women in their 20s by up to 65% while men in the same age bracket are only influenced by up to 15%.

Your location also plays a key role in determining your success.  If you have an iPhone 11, you have the best chances in London, Vancouver, and Los Angeles. And if you show off your Apple Watch on your dating profile while you’re in San Francisco or Manchester, you will attract more views and swipes to the right.

The only odd-one-out is New York. Here, the most swipes to right goes to the person who shows off their AirPods.

Some might have reservations on the whole study, but this was done using legitimate methodologies. The whole study is done by setting up fake profiles. Each fake profile displays the device supposedly owned by the person. Granted though, the study only looks at data from 15 major cities and more than 50,000 swipes.

So, don’t be discouraged if you don’ have an iPhone to boost your successful match. After all, there’s a lot that you can do to improve your chances on dating apps.

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Pokémon launched Pikachu-themed wedding rings, but there’s something nasty about them

How big is your love?

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As of late, The Pokémon Company has increased its reach to a lot of other industries outside of gaming, including lifestyle apps and wireless earbuds. Now, the ubiquitous brand has expanded to the most precious catch of them all: wedding rings.

Partnered with Japanese jewelry company Ginza Tanaka, The Pokémon Company has officially launched Pikachu-themed engagement rings and wedding bands. The list of products includes simple platinum and gold wedding bands that come in a PokéBall-style box. Couples can also get their rings engraved with their own personal customizations. (However, the company rightly suggests a variation of “I choose you, [insert name here].”)

Meanwhile, the engagement rings are a bit more ostentatious. One design is a simple silhouette of Pikachu’s face, but the face’s center holds a diamond. Another design has two Pikachu tails holding the diamond in place. Like the wedding bands, they can come in either gold or platinum.

Cute as they are, there’s something awfully weird about them, as The Verge points out. In particular, the ears of the Pikachu rings look particularly nasty. Call us skeptical, but we don’t think Pikachu had *those* for ears. And yes, while they are part of the marriage process, we don’t know if you’d want them wrapped around your finger forever.

However, if you’re not bothered by them and think they’re perfectly innocent and fluffy Pikachu ears, they retail for JPY 346,500 (approximately US$ 3,225). Meanwhile, the wedding bands range between JPY 115,550 (approximately US$ 1,076) to JPY 121,000 (approximately US$ 1,126). The collection also has a keepsake photo frame selling for JPY 13,200 (approximately US$ 123).

SEE ALSO: Pokémon Unite is the very first Pokémon MOBA game

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Dating apps will stop letting you search by race

In response to Black Lives Matter protests

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Since its inception, online dating has always presented an interesting conundrum. To access the services, users are shrinking themselves down to individual nuggets of data focused entirely on who they are. In doing so, they enter a vast lottery of people, searching for people according to their preferences. However, one of these nuggets is unarguably the most controversial topic today: ethnicity.

Though Tinder does not allow searching by ethnicity, other dating apps — Grindr, OkCupid, and Hinge — do, allowing users to search potential matches based on their race. However, Grindr is taking an all-new stand, in response to the ongoing protests happening across America.

Announced on Twitter, the popular dating app for gay, bisexual, and transsexual men supported the Black Lives Matter movement. However, rather than just making its stand known, Grindr has announced the end of its ethnicity search function. In the next update, the app will take the feature out completely.

However, in a statement to Forbes, other similar dating apps will keep the ethnicity search. According to these companies, minority groups still want the search function to find other people like them.

Regardless, it’s an interesting time for dating apps in general. For one, social distancing has put physical dating to a complete halt, necessitating new socially distant matching tools. Secondly, with race turning into a touchy topic for everyone all over the world, how will dating apps respond?

SEE ALSO: Tinder will soon allow you to match with anyone around the world

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