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Don’t close yourself off from the possibility of finding love on Tinder

But is it even possible?

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“Can you find love on Tinder?”

Ah, the question that everyone who hasn’t tried the app curiously asks. I opened my Tinder app and recalled the first time I ever used it.

Initially, I was skeptical about online dating. I thought Tinder, like other dating apps, was for people who only want to indulge in flings and uncommitted fun. I couldn’t wrap my head around the idea of being able to find love through an app. I hate to admit it: I’ve judged people on the network and I despised Tinder despite not having used the app at all. I still believed love unfolds a certain way: by chance encounters, intimate conversations, two people falling in love with one another. I had a narrow perspective on modern romance in my generation.

Friends and people I know who’ve used and found love on the app shared stories on how it all started for them. I realized that the hesitation to try the app was my fear of change — I hated how my views were being challenged by technology! But, curiosity kicked in after hearing my friends’ perspectives and I hit “download app.”

Having been on the app for a year now, I noticed that everyone asks why you’re on Tinder. That’s when you’ll realize that people have different reasons: some want to kill time, cure their boredom, feel good about themselves, be distracted from loneliness, have a good time and mess around… But, amid the sea of people, there’s a small portion of “Tinderfellas” and “Tinderellas” who are looking for something serious, who want to be in a relationship, who use the app the way it should be — for dating. 

I remember matching with someone interesting. It was one of those days when I lazily swiped to pass time. This guy is foreign, totally cute, and adventurous. Above all, he’s a simple guy who found joy in simple things (as seen in his profile, of course). When we first matched, I knew I had to start the conversation and that’s where it all began. He found me adorable and the whole interaction was so much fun that we left the app to talk somewhere else. We continuously kept in contact and despite both being busy, we tried our best to meet and go on a date.

For the first time in a long while, I was treated with respect and I felt loved. I hadn’t experienced that magic for some time so I freaked out. It’s scary to put your heart on your sleeves. By doing so, I let my fears get the best of me and ran away. When I realized my mistake, I tried to reach out but I knew I already screwed up. I wasted the chance to be with someone amazing and deprived myself of the happiness that I could’ve had.

At some point, I also realized I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship. It wasn’t the right time, yet. I took it as a lesson so when the next person comes, I’ll be sure of what I want.

I know a lot of people who found real relationships on Tinder — some just started, some are going strong, some already ended their love stories. There are those who’ve decided to leave the app, and some still choose to go back to the same cycle of swiping left or right until they find the right one.

Does it mean you can find love on Tinder? Apparently, it doesn’t work that way. You don’t get to find love with just a right swipe, or because you matched with someone. After all, you’re not supposed to look for love, you let it find you — at the right moment, at the right time and place, with the right people, and on your own terms.

Based on my experience, Tinder doesn’t guarantee that you’ll find love, but it can help.

Most of us are still defining ourselves and trying to navigate adulthood. Some of us are busy pursuing passions and greater pursuits in life. There are people hustling and trying to make ends meet. Tinder makes it easier for us to find someone we can really connect with, so we can still put ourselves out there despite the differences in priorities.

If you happen to meet someone from Tinder with potential for a long-term relationship, it’s all up to you. Condition your mind and prepare yourself. Decide if you want to pursue a relationship with that person.

Tinder is just a tool that can help you be open to love and dating again. Love is everywhere. It happens when you least expect it. Maybe the love of your life was already that match you weren’t talking to, maybe it’s someone you were about to swipe right to, or maybe you won’t meet them in an app, but in a bar, or a friend’s event, or when traveling to places you’ve always wanted to see. You have to realize that love is natural. It’s a force that cannot be forced. You let it develop over time. 

You still need to put yourself out there, though. Don’t close yourself off from the possibility of love finding you. Whether it be on a dating app or otherwise, trust that it will find you. Believe in the universe, or fate, because it sometimes works in tandem with our technology. Be patient and focus on being the best version of yourself for now so when you match with someone again, you’ll be ready. Stop looking for love, and be open when it comes.

With right swipes come great possibilities.

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Smartphone photography 101: Capturing festivities

Keep those memories of celebration and happiness alive

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The crowd, color, food, and impeccable decorations make welcoming the Lunar New Year so much fun and memorable. It only happens once a year, so it’s important to keep those memories of celebration and happiness alive.

Here are some tips from photographers on how you can make the most our of your iPhone during the festivities:

1. Shoot with your phone

Food stylist CR Tan demonstrates how easy it is to shoot a reunion dinner. Even if you have one, you wouldn’t really want to whip out your big camera to capture the fun and action over food. With good lighting, a little bit of styling, and added human element, you can achieve a great photo with an iPhone.

Follow CR Tan on Instagram: @xlbcr

2. Use Night Mode

Not enough light? Don’t let darkness stop you. Photographer Yudhi Aristan uses Night Mode to capture vibrant colors even in low light. Just hold still for a few seconds and see the magic happen.

Follow Yudhi Aristan on Instagram: @aristan89

3. Play with perspectives

Take your time to frame your shot. Photographer Jason Lim suggests playing around with the different lenses your iPhone comes with. The Ultra Wide Angle, Wide Angle, and Telephoto lenses can be used to create eye-catching compositions.

Follow Jason Lim on Instagram: @jsnjnr

Did you capture any photos in welcoming the Chinese New Year? Share them with us in the comments below! 📷

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24 Hours in Jakarta

Captured through the awesome camera of the Galaxy A71

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When I hear Indonesia, Bali always comes to mind. Although I’ve never been there, I know it’s a dream destination for many because of its beaches, peaks, parks, temples, and terraces. It’s an escape out of the polluted and crowded cityscape.

Two hours away from Bali is the country’s capital, Jakarta. Its dense city structure further proves that it has been on a massive urban sprawl. Honestly, I had no idea where to go and what to do — but the internet exists for a reason. The only Indo things I’m aware of are mi goreng, nasi goreng, beef rendang, MONAS, Alfa Mart. That’s about it.

I flew all the way to Jakarta for Samsung’s Awesome Live Event with BLACKPINK where they introduced the Galaxy A51 and Galaxy A71. The day after the event, I finally had the phone on hand and tested its “awesome camera”, including the new ultra-wide lens.

Cozy stay

Capturing the hotel view outside was the first thing I did with the phone. Not the best window view I had but the greenery added an ethereal escape against the sharp, tall slabs of concrete.

Going out of the room gives me another view. That large structure is the Tennis Indoor Senayan where Samsung held its live event. It’s also one of the venues of the 18th Asian Games and other K-Pop concerts. Seeing it from afar and up close made me realize how lucky I am.

Before heading out, I tried the hotel’s breakfast buffet. So far, so good. There was enough variety that I enjoyed eating. I spoiled myself by having more than five plates. Here’s a photo of the sweet food, for the wandering souls out there.

Taman Mini Indonesia Indah (TMII)

I decided to go to Taman Mini Indonesia Indah as it’s located far from the skyline of Jakarta. Despite what the name suggests, this place isn’t “mini”. This museum is just one among the many parks you can see inside the TMII premises.

With limited time, I decided to push through — and I’m glad I did. It made me realize how similar Indonesians and Filipinos are, not just when it comes to appearance but also language. There are Bahasa and Tagalog words that both share the same meaning such as “selamat”, “datuk”, “kolintang”, “pintu”, “balik”, “lima”, “pula”, “kanan”, “anak”, and more. It’s truly fascinating.

These traditional art pieces show how rich and diverse Indonesia’s culture is. Some were hand-drawn, sculpted, weaved, or even painted, like the batik. They even have their own version of puppets called wayang.

After the three-story museum tour, I headed to a mini temple to rest and relax. Those who were caught off-guard by the claustrophobic dim spaces of the museum can enjoy the majestic pond outside.

National Monument (MONAS)

As mentioned earlier, I knew about MONAS. It’s Indonesia’s National Monument — and that’s because the city-building game I’m playing introduced me to it. I downloaded the landmark mod which made me recognize it’s one of Indonesia’s sought-after landmarks.

It’s erected right in the center of Jakarta. According to locals, you can see all of Jakarta if you go up — pretty much like a drone. Unfortunately, I didn’t get to do that because of the flaming hot weather.

Kota Tua

If you weren’t aware, Indonesia was colonized by the Dutch empire. Batavia was the old-day Jakarta. Thus, the “Old Batavia” they’re calling can be found here in Kota Tua.

What you see above is the Fatahillah Square which is the historical center of the old town. Beside it, there are museums pertaining to wayang, fine arts and ceramics, and even Jakarta’s history. During my visit, they were all closed.

If you are too lazy to walk around, there are these colorful bicycles you can rent.

The establishments here look nothing like modern-day Jakarta. A lot of cities saved much of their history through preservation of old buildings and Kota Tua is no exception.

After strolling for almost half an hour, I had my late lunch. Indonesian cuisine is known to be spicy. I teared up eating authentic mi goreng — its spice level is way too high for comfort. I love eating spicy food as long as they’re tolerable. Thankfully, Thai iced tea I ordered saved my tongue from burning.

I went to the night market early so I witnessed how vendors cooked their food before it got crowded. There are martabak and lumpia stalls although I didn’t get to try them.

The sun was setting so I hurried to see other establishments. There were a lot of shops that offer local kopi and indomie, while other stalls were selling phone cases and designer imitations. I didn’t find any souvenir shops around, although that might be because I was there before most shops opened.

Malls galore

Jakarta’s malls aren’t the biggest but they have exclusive shop offerings, like Plaza Senayan. It was surprising to see a bakery and a popular coffee shop inside the department store. It’s not something I’m used to, and I found it odd considering they were selling all sorts of cosmetic products within the vicinity.

I wasn’t too happy with the food choices at Plaza Senayan so I went to another mall near the hotel called FX Sudirman. I only had a few hours left before I had to leave so might as well enjoy what I can have.

As a Libra, being indecisive is part of my whole being. I roamed around and there were better food choices but I got tired so I chose to eat at an American burger joint instead. The Salted Egg Cheese Burger was good although the salted egg flavor was barely there.

When I went out I was greeted by these roller skaters going back and forth the sidewalk.

3-Star Airport (?)

I was surprised that the Soekarno-Hatta International Airport is only a 3-star airport. It’s not as fancy as Singapore’s Changi, but it’s clean, organized, and the architecture is modern and striking. My flight departed at midnight, so you can see how quiet and less crowded it gets off-peak hours.

Unlike other airports that offer 24-hour services, most shops and restaurants after immigration were already closed by the time I got there.

Too little time for a huge city

Moments before boarding the plane, I somehow wished I could’ve stayed longer. It would’ve also been more “awesome” if I met locals around. It’s hard to imagine how I managed to compress what I wanted to see in just 24 hours. It may not be long before they transfer the city capital crown to East Kalimantan in Borneo, so I’m hoping I can come back before that happens with a more well-thought out itinerary.

All photos were taken using the Samsung Galaxy A71.

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How to make your crush view your Instagram Story

Three easy steps to get that validation

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Catching up with friends entails a discussion about your love life. Being single for a long time, a friend asked if I were dating someone new. I responded gleefully, “no, I’m not dating anyone but I have a new crush I met at an event.”

Giggly about my newfound love interest, my friend advised me how to tease my crush. However, it’ll only work if we’re following each other on Instagram. To see if my friend’s strategy works, we used our own accounts and to my surprise, we succeeded.

While it may yield different results, here are three easy steps you can do to make your crush view your Instagram story.

Step 1: Post a story you want your crush to see

Uploading a story feels like a small window to our lives. Make sure the photo you upload is something that you want your crush to see. It’s like making an impression, and you only have one shot if he/she ever sees your story. I posted my gym photos and pizza stories — something that both my crush and I enjoy.

Step 2: Edit your story settings

Here’s the not-so-tricky part! We’re calling it the hide-unhide strategy. When your story is uploaded, immediately adjust your story settings and hide your story from your crush. Save it, and then change the story settings again to unhide the story. This strategy beats Instagram’s algorithm and pushes your story to one of the first stories he/she can view.

Step 3: Enjoy the validation

As long as you and your crush follow each other on Instagram and regularly use the app, then it’s guaranteed that he/she will view your story. Enjoy the frickin’ validation. I’ve been doing it for almost a month now, and I always giggle whenever I see my crush’s name.

There are times that the strategy won’t push you to the first story he/she can view. For some reason, my friend tried hiding and unhiding her story to me, and she only ended up being second on the queue. Instagram still prioritizes the accounts you engage with the most through reacts and direct messages. However, being at the first five ensures you have a shot at making an impression that lasts.

Now, hurry and make your crush view your story. It won’t be long before Instagram’s algorithm changes again!

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