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He’s not busy, he’s just not that into you

The truth is a hard pill to swallow

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It’s been more than a month since I started self-isolating. I found myself wallowing, sprawling while the uncertainty creeps deep within. It’s a constant battle, deciding whether I’ll do something to pass time, or just tend to myself and do a little bit of self-care.

The pandemic hovering over our heads somehow slapped us with realizations. We were forced to do some retrospection, particularly in our relationships.

In this quandary, people have started reconnecting with the people that matter — friends, family, significant other, crushes, exes (really?), and persons close to their hearts — and to someone I deeply adore, I happen to not be part of it.

One slice of pizza, one slice of warmth

Three weeks ago, I started to move on from another almost relationship. I asked myself, “Was there even an us to begin with?” I scroll back to the messages I bravely sent over Instagram which was left unread, perhaps deleted, and I pondered: Why didn’t I step away the moment I sensed some red flags?

Maybe because I still cherish the last date where we shared a delectable pepperoni pizza, along with a mouthwatering bacon and cheese pasta. Perhaps, it was that instantaneous connection, where we just clicked and bonded over similar interests. That fiery spark you suddenly feel. Or was it the conversation that dragged on for over four months? With every message and checking up that made me feel special. And loved. That’s probably it. Loved.

After all, we’re humans and we just want to feel loved. To be caressed, nurtured, taken cared of. In between the delusions, I might’ve purposely disregarded the mixed signals. “He’s into me,” I told myself repeatedly just like Gigi from that heart-wrenching movie He’s Just Not That Into You.

“If the person you like certainly likes you, he or she will make an effort”

Maybe it wasn’t heart-wrenching to some, but for people (like me) who struggled with unreturned phone calls, and dealt with stringing along and indecisiveness from the person in question, that film felt like a nail gun to my chest. Just like in the movie, I saw myself in those Baltimorean women struggling with reading someone’s romantic interest.

Like a puppy asking for a bite

I looked back in my conversation with this person I deeply adore, sneaking away to take another glance at his Instagram profile. With the technology we have, how hard is it to communicate? Then it hit me: That dating advice Gigi received still rings true up to this day. Who would’ve known that ten years later, that advice will still be an absolute truth?

If the person you like certainly likes you, he or she will make an effort — not sending you breadcrumbs as if you were a puppy desperate to get a bite of tiny leftovers.

“If they don’t want to call you, they won’t.”

I wish I had realized this sooner and didn’t let myself be blinded by non-committal offers. He was vague, inconsistent, and kept on sending mixed signals. That should’ve been the sign that it’s not going anywhere. Katy Perry, through her song “Hot and Cold”, perfectly encapsulated the way this person behaved, and I let his erratic actions trample all over me just because I thought he was really into me.

It’s not what you deserve

What confused me back then was the intense interest he showed. I kept asking myself, “does he really like me?” It’s as if he was purposefully leading me on. I learned this the hard way.

Despite all the butterflies, I regret wasting my time falling head over heels with this person. Some part of me wished I didn’t entertain and didn’t believe that it was what I deserved. I guess at that moment, I ascertained my worth. That urged me to put more value on myself.

In front of the mirror, I glare with strength and poise, “I’ll never settle to anything less.” Somehow, having a mantra to chant every morning made me feel stronger. Gladly, this came in a situation where I can be alone to process everything without distraction. Perhaps, a silver lining in the catastrophe that China caused.

Glued to smartphones, but no communication

But just like any other person, I wasn’t able to move forward instantly. There were moments of doubt, a barrage of emotions waiting to be dealt with, bouts of insanity, and giving and making excuses. He’s probably busy; he’s having difficulty coping with this pandemic; or perhaps, he’s doing a digital detox since I do it regularly, too.

The only difference is I know how to respond — with an unwavering interest — to people that I truly like and people close to my heart. It hit me: If they don’t want to call you, they won’t. Because that’s how I do it, too.

“You’ll always take some time to reach out to that person you like.”

Our lives are now on phones and laptops, and it’s pretty difficult to grasp the truth that we aren’t worth responding to. I know, I know. Reading this might make you think this is a precedent to a clingy and toxic behavior. I’m telling you, it’s not. My life (and my job) had me glued to my gadgets, with communication being second-nature, especially in this remote working setup we all find ourselves in.

It’s easy to have unread messages when a lot is going on because I happen to have that exact situation. People are left on my inbox, notifications are hardly checked — immediately swiping it out of your screen promising to check it later (but of course you’ll forget about it).

You are the antidote to your poison

Knowing the reality of a busy life can make you gloss their inconsistencies over, pushing yourself to believe that they have a lot on their plates. You’ll keep making yourself believe they haven’t had the time. When that moment happens, that’s the time you need to suck that poison out of your life. Stop giving yourself false hopes. You are your antidote, and only you can save your life.

Here’s some truth pill that may be hard to swallow: It’s not that difficult to send one message to keep the connection alive. You’ll always take some time to reach out to that person you like. It might not be right away, but you’ll always make an effort to show you care.

At least, that’s what I would do. I know for a fact that I will express my interest the way I want to receive it, too. If s/he still doesn’t, even after giving him or her numerous chances, dear, it’s time to walk away.

You deserve someone who won’t make you guess whether s/he’s into you.


Love in the 21st century is a series of essays and anecdotes tackling modern love, relationships, and dating in the age where technology is at the forefront, playing a key role in connecting two hearts, even from a distance.

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Couple co-op games to play during the pandemic

Loving from a distance

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It goes without saying that the pandemic has drastically altered our lives. And, for the lucky few who’ve found love amidst the global chaos or barely kept their love life while apart, playing games has become one of the best past time in quarantine.

Below are cooperative games you can play with your partners or friends. We’re open to all forms of love here. Also, note that this list won’t include classic multiplayer games like Minecraft, Stardew Valley, and Animal Crossing: New Horizons because I’m assuming you and your partner or friends have already played these for an ungodly number of hours. Which, by the way if you haven’t, I recommend you start there.

Not included on this list are multiplayer online battle arenas(mobas) since that’s a whole genre of it’s own. And, I’m sick and tired of blatant sexting and flirting on moba team chats. Get your lives together or stay alone, yeah?

It Takes Two

Steam, PlayStation, Xbox, & PC

It Takes Two is a cooperative action-adventure platformer with gripping stories and game mechanics. You play as arguing parents at wit’s end stuck in doll form. The doll form bit is due to your daughter’s attempt to cope with her parents’ eventual split. Speaking of splits, it’s a split-screen multiplayer that allows you to play locally or online. The game mechanics and design are witty and eloquent–drawing you into the characters’ stories.

It Takes Two is a good game to play with your partner to see how well you work through obstacles together–in more ways than one. It Takes Two was developed by Hazelight Studios and published by Electronic Arts under the EA Originals labels.

Heave Ho!

Steam, Nintendo Switch, & GOG

Heave Ho! is a multiplayer co-op platformer where you and your partner or friends get through tough puzzles using your wobbly and dangly limbs. Grab on to each other’s hands, climb across dangling bodies, and swing your way into safety.

Heave Ho! forces you to work together by throwing the other, climbing over, and using our partner to get to the other side. It’s a quirky simple yet challenging game that have left players screaming desperate for hand grabbing. Heave Ho! was developed by Le Cartel Studio and published by Devolver Digital.

Overcooked! 2

Steam, Nintendo Switch, PlayStation, Xbox, GOG

Overcooked! 2 is a cooperative cooking simulation video game. It’s the sequel to Overcooked! which had the same game mechanics just without the new and improved stages, mechanics, and features. Overcooked! 2 will make it necessary to yell at each other–which doesn’t have to be a bad thing. You work together as a team to prep, cook, and serve.

It’s the perfect game to play to break the ice, work together, laugh, and panic. Test your relationship, strengthen it, or break up over a silly game. Overcooked! 2 was developed by Team17 alongside Ghost Town Games and published by Team17.

Valheim

Steam

Do two burly Vikings braving the elements sound like a romantic way to spend the night with your partner? No, of course not, but you’ll get hours of entertainment riding together with your nordic allies. Valheim is an explorative survival game. Build yourself a little home, roam the giant wilderness for resources, and hunt some trolls. If Minecraft doesn’t hit the same way anymore, this will probably fill that gap. But make sure you’re playing together, microphone on, and you’ll get lost in purgatory.

Valheim was developed by Iron Gate AB and developed by Coffee Stain Publishing.

SEE ALSO: 10 video games for players 1 and 2

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Huawei Watch GT 2 Pro: Best gift for the man in your life

Make him shine as bright as you

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Not every successful woman needs a man. But if you happen to have one in your life, it doesn’t hurt if he can look as pristine as you.

What better way to elevate his look than with a premium timepiece that looks smart and is actually smart.

The Magic number is 12. There’s that thing about 12 days of Christmas. In the Philippines, the Watch GT 2 Pro retails for roughly around PhP 12,000. So here are 12 reasons to make each thousand of that purchase count.

1. It’s gorgeous and will elevate your man’s confidence

Here’s the deal. It’s possible your man looks like a walking half-peeled potato. But have him wear the watch and he’ll instantly feel like a BTS member. Now, he may still look like a potato, but now he’s a potato with swagger. The best thing anyone can wear is confidence and this can totally help with that.

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2. It won’t break easily 

A luxurious timepiece that will likely stand the test of time? Yep, that’s that this is. The sapphire glass that the watch face is made of is on stubborn son of a b***. It’s as tough as they come.

3. It’s customizable 

Nothing’s more empowering than knowing you can tweak things to your taste. With One Hop Watch Face, you can use whatever image is in your file as the Watch Face. Neat!

(*Only works when paired with a Huawei smartphone running EMUI 11 and up).

4. It can track a bajillion workouts 

We’re going to assume the hyperbole didn’t fly over your head. Think of an activity, and there’s a good chance the Huawei Watch GT 2 Pro can support it. It likely can find and track a workout that your man can stick with. This means your man can go from looking like a potato to looking like a french fry (which is a snacc. Get it?) 😉

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5. It can lead your man back to you

Let’s say your man decides to transform from potato to french fry and starts with some light jogging around your neighborhood. But he got too into it and doesn’t realize he’s in the part of the neighborhood he’s not familiar with. The Huawei Watch GT 2 Pro has a GPS Route Back feature that will let him find his way back into your loving arms.

6. Encourage him to pick-up a sport

Other than tracking workouts, it can also track bajillion sports. There’s badminton, tennis, bowling, volleyball, and even golf! These are all fun sports that you can do together!

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7. You can check how much you make his heart flutter 

Okay, that’s probably not what the heart rate meter is for but it’s a fun concept, right? It is, of course, useful for many other things but this one is cute to try. Throw an “aegyo” (cute gesture) his way and see how much his heart rate spikes.

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8. You can find out why he’s being grumpy 

Is your man acting aloof or just plain out of it? Ask him to check his stress levels on Huawei Watch GT 2 Pro. If it returns an alarming number, ask him what’s up and you guys can resolve the problem together. 💕

9. Make sure he gets your messages

The Huawei Watch GT 2 Pro lets you have full control on which notifications you get. Make sure he has notifications turned on for the messaging app you two use the most. That way, he always gets those sweet nothings from you.

A message from babe 💕

10. Decide whether you’re going out for a safe social-distancing date or staying in to Netflix and chill 😏

One glance on the watch and you’ll get a sense of what the weather is like on a particular day. This will help you determine whether you’ll spend some time out or just have some snuggle time indoors.

11. You don’t have to worry about charging it everyday

Let’s face it. Several smartwatches require some juicing up after just a day. Well, not this one. Even if you push the battery to the limit by enabling all the features, you’ll still get AT LEAST five days without charging it. It’s long-lasting just like your man. 😉

12. You can take cute couple photos! 

It has a remote shutter feature that will free up your hands and let you do all the silly couple poses you’ve been wanting to do. Just prop your phone up somewhere and use the watch as the shutter!

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SEE ALSO: Huawei Watch GT 2 Pro review: Swanky and smart

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If you buy the Huawei Watch GT 2 Pro (PhP 11,999) from November 27 to December 31, you’ll get a FREE entertainment package consisting of a notebook, multi-connector, and blue speaker. Combined those are worth PhP 2,099.

This deal is available in all Huawei stores as well as online and offline retailers.

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iPhone users have a higher match rate compared to Android owners

iPhones boost match rate by 76%

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Looking to improve your chances of getting a match on dating apps? You might want to consider using an iPhone. A new study by a UK-based firm found that iPhone users have a higher match rate compared to Android owners.

The latest study by CompareMyMobile dives into the relation of devices owned with chances of matching with someone. It found out that having an iPhone boost chances of matching with the “one” by almost 76%. There’s no specific iPhone model named in the study, but having the latest model surely boosts a person’s match rate.

It didn’t stop there, either. If you love your AirPods and Apple Watch dearly, you are sure to attract more people looking for the love of their life. The study guarantees 61% more chances of successful matches if one owns an Apple Watch. Meanwhile, having the latest AirPods alone boosts profile matches by 41%.

This is in stark contrast with the owners of Android smartphones. Having a Google Pixel will erode chances of matching with other profiles by 10%. Other brands have it worse: owners of Sony will have a 14% lesser successful match rate, while Huawei and OnePlus will have 23% and 30%, respectively.

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And what if you still rock a Blackberry? Sorry, but you can expect more people swiping to the left. The study found that having a BlackBerry significantly decreases your chances of matching with others by a staggering 74%. So if you’re still wondering why you’re still single despite having good looks and charisma, then your BlackBerry might be to blame.

Age and location affect match rate too

There are two factors that affect these preferences: age and location. Unsurprisingly, younger people are much influenced by smartphone brands in their matching preferences.

Women are much more discerning with smartphones a person uses across all age brackets. For example, smartphones influence the preferences of women in their 20s by up to 65% while men in the same age bracket are only influenced by up to 15%.

Your location also plays a key role in determining your success.  If you have an iPhone 11, you have the best chances in London, Vancouver, and Los Angeles. And if you show off your Apple Watch on your dating profile while you’re in San Francisco or Manchester, you will attract more views and swipes to the right.

The only odd-one-out is New York. Here, the most swipes to right goes to the person who shows off their AirPods.

Some might have reservations on the whole study, but this was done using legitimate methodologies. The whole study is done by setting up fake profiles. Each fake profile displays the device supposedly owned by the person. Granted though, the study only looks at data from 15 major cities and more than 50,000 swipes.

So, don’t be discouraged if you don’ have an iPhone to boost your successful match. After all, there’s a lot that you can do to improve your chances on dating apps.

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